His Needs, Her Needs: Building a Marriage That Lasts

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In Chapter 5, Harley describes the need for intimate conversation by not only teaching men how to converse correctly with their wives but also challenging them to dedicate fifteen hours each week to intimate conversation (70). To determine your preferences and those of your spouse, there is a questionnaire at the back, and if that isn't enough, more are available at his web site. All of our books are 100% brand new, unread and purchased directly from the publishers in bulk allowing us to pass the huge savings on to you! It helps couples put their fingers on their own needs and the needs of their spouses, and gives you a common language and understanding to draw from, which vastly improves your ability to communicate about these important issues. This book addresses the failure to care - the failure to meet each other's most important emotional needs.

At the beginning, I thought the author had some credibility and somewhat (simple) decent advice but my view changed with each chapter. Dù là năm 2011 thì tới nay sự phát triển của nam giới và nữ giới cũng như hôn nhân của các giới đã thay đổi nhiều rồi. Positively, Harley’s book has set a standard for marriage help that other books can only attempt to replicate. The bottom line is, the book provides insight on what makes your spouse happy and fulfilled and offers good, practical advice on steps you can take to make your marriage better.His basic premise - from YEARS of experience as a professional psychologist and marriage counselor - is this: men and women (humans) have feelings of "love" towards those people who they have positive experiences with. Over the next ten years his solo practice developed into the largest network of mental health clinics in Minnesota (thirty-two locations) with over one hundred psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers and chemical dependency counselors working with him to provide a full range of mental health services. Chapter 11 describes the need for family commitment evidenced by both time and training and something to which husbands must commit another fifteen house per week (160-161). Cá nhân mình thấy thì tác giả có nhiều lần trích dẫn Kinh thánh (hoặc lời giảng của Chúa hay từ sách giáo huấn - mình không rõ gọi là gì), do không theo Thiên chúa nên mình cũng không cảm nhận được gì và cũng không hiểu gì. highlight was the love bank concept it clearly articulates how I feel when my partner earns or looses points by not meeting my emotional needs.

My own biggest criticism of HNHN is that it assumes both partners are reading and applying the concepts together. The problem I have with this book is that I felt the author justifies (especially men) going and having an affair because their needs were not being met. Change country: -Select- Albania Algeria American Samoa Andorra Angola Anguilla Antigua and Barbuda Argentina Armenia Aruba Australia Bahamas Bahrain Bangladesh Barbados Belgium Belize Benin Bermuda Bhutan Bolivia Bosnia and Herzegovina Botswana Brazil British Virgin Islands Brunei Darussalam Bulgaria Burkina Faso Burundi Cambodia Cameroon Canada Cape Verde Islands Cayman Islands Central African Republic Chad Chile China Colombia Comoros Cook Islands Costa Rica Cyprus Czech Republic Côte d'Ivoire (Ivory Coast) Democratic Republic of the Congo Denmark Djibouti Dominica Dominican Republic Ecuador Egypt El Salvador Equatorial Guinea Eritrea Estonia Ethiopia Falkland Islands (Islas Malvinas) Finland France French Guiana French Polynesia Gabon Republic Gambia Ghana Gibraltar Greece Greenland Grenada Guadeloupe Guam Guatemala Guernsey Guinea Guinea-Bissau Guyana Haiti Honduras Hong Kong Hungary Iceland India Indonesia Iraq Ireland Israel Italy Jamaica Japan Jersey Jordan Kenya Kiribati Kuwait Kyrgyzstan Laos Latvia Lebanon Lesotho Liberia Liechtenstein Lithuania Luxembourg Macau Macedonia Madagascar Malawi Malaysia Maldives Mali Malta Marshall Islands Martinique Mauritania Mauritius Mayotte Mexico Micronesia Moldova Monaco Mongolia Montenegro Montserrat Morocco Namibia Nepal Netherlands Netherlands Antilles New Zealand Nicaragua Niger Niue Norway Oman Pakistan Palau Panama Papua New Guinea Paraguay Peru Philippines Poland Portugal Puerto Rico Qatar Republic of Croatia Republic of the Congo Reunion Romania Saint Helena Saint Kitts-Nevis Saint Lucia Saint Vincent and the Grenadines San Marino Saudi Arabia Senegal Serbia Sierra Leone Singapore Slovakia Slovenia Solomon Islands South Africa South Korea Spain Sri Lanka Suriname Svalbard and Jan Mayen Swaziland Sweden Switzerland Taiwan Tajikistan Tanzania Thailand Togo Tonga Trinidad and Tobago Tunisia Turkey Turkmenistan Turks and Caicos Islands Tuvalu Uganda Ukraine United Arab Emirates United Kingdom United States Uruguay Uzbekistan Vanuatu Vatican City State Venezuela Virgin Islands (U. Harley’s guiding goal is for each spouse to cease making withdraws from the other spouse through selfishness and to start building up a wealth of love units inside them.Kỹ năng và cách tiếp cận thì mỗi người có thể khác nhau nhưng kinh nghiệm thực tế, đối với mình là rất quý giá vì mình không được tiếp xúc và hiểu về nhiều cuộc hôn nhân bằng chuyên gia được rồi. Lest you say that this doesn't apply to "me", he points out that a person (even a person with solid religious belief, and firm moral conviction) may be tempted into an affair, seduced by a "relationship built upon fantasy, not reality. After introducing his theme in both his introduction and first chapter, Harley develops a foundational metaphor for the marriage relationship in Chapter 2 by describing the “Love Bank,” a theoretical holding inside each person where one’s acquaintances and spouse can either deposit or withdraw “love units.

Harley is no nonsense to the point of being clinical, and yet is down to earth and even friendly in tone. Regarding my observation of the shallow view held by the author, he condones men being demanding on their wives regarding their physical appearances. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs. No missing or damaged pages, no creases or tears, no underlining or highlighting of text, and no writing in the margins. Harley suggests that couples identify and understand their specific emotional needs and communicate them to their partners.

My wife and I listened to this book together on a long car ride, where we could pause and discuss when prompted.

While he encourages his wife to pursue a career if it is her desire, he does not depend on her salary for family living expenses. Mẹ mình hay bảo mình là cái đồ cứ hay đọc sách đọc sách nhưng tính mình vậy rồi thà đứng yên bất động cho dòng đời xoay chuyển chứ quyết không liều mình lao vào làm những thứ mà mình không biết nó là cái gì.

It also offers specific, practical steps on spending quality time as a couple, deciding on child-training methods, dividing domestic responsibilities, and even handling kids with ADHD and intrusive in-laws. Admiration - This mostly came at the end of the book, which is a shame because respect really is ultimate to a husband and is the driver (not sex) behind many of the affairs Harley describes. Historical honesty: Reveal information about your personal history, particularly events that demonstrate personal weakness or failure.