Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life

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Bishop also presents "detachment from outcome" more succinctly than anyone I've read thus far. I had understood it, but found it difficult to put into practice in the way it had been presented to me before. By pointing out the difference between formulated goals, and the path to them in the real world, it all came together in a more practical way. If you want to live the life you have imagined, it is imperative that you start planning it and figure out a strategy to achieve it. Defining goals is one of the most important parts of the planning process, as it sets the foundation for your actions. Therefore, prioritize it, instead of postponing it. Failures often awaken certain self-destructive emotions. Bishop suggests that whenever we fail or something doesn’t go as planned, we have to simply accept it and move on. Moreover, we have to find happiness in the journey we had and find peace in the idea that the final destination is not the most important part. Lesson 3: Don’t blame others for your failures and learn to take responsibility for your decisions. That doesn’t mean you are okay with it or that you agree with it, but simply that you are owning it and in charge of it. Remember you can always change something when you can take ownership and responsibility for it.”

I liked it, and the straightforward tone definitely works for me, but it fell short compared to Bishop's first book. It was a bit about everything but not enough about one thing, making it unmemorable; however, it totally worked to motivate me in the present moment. I 've come across so many self development books and articles, videos and stuff, it never once mentioned that by going against the diet thing and deciding to eat whatever you want, that's considered winning. Bishop shares this thought from Dale Carnegie: “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” In summaryI am so glad I didn’t buy this book and just borrowed it from the library instead. When I first started listening to the audio version of this book, I was excited and eager to learn something new. But this isn’t new. It’s completely recycled. And not only that, the messages Gary John Bishop is regurgitating are some of the most garbage personal improvement messages out there. As others have pointed out, Mr. Bishop has some seriously privileged blinders on and completely ignores marginalized populations. These are the messages as I heard them: Okay, let's set things straight, a lotta people are saying this book ain't nothin' and I really don't appreciate that. If you want to win, you have to be willing to be let others judge you. I am not my thoughts; I am what I do

List three areas that do not reflect how you want your life to go and why these areas are the way they are There’s a brief introduction chapter and three “project” chapters: Project 1: A Question of Self, Project 2: The Relationship Trap, and Project 3: Purpose, What Purpose? The chapter before the short conclusion/farewell one includes seven assignments based on each of the chapters of his previous book. Listening to this is like sitting in the corner during a prizefight and having a super eccentric trainer yell at you. Except between all the random speeches he's asking you questions that are exposing all of your internal bullshit. As Theodore Roosevelt said, “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” This is one of the areas of “Unfu*k Yourself” that most spoke to me. I’ve talked about how during my mini-retirement I want to get outside of my comfort zone and explore new experiences. And largely I haven’t in the two months since I quit my job.Taking charge of your life implies being responsible for your actions and not blaming other people for your mistakes. It’s not about psyching yourself up. Don’t wait for the mood to strike. Just do it. Your mind will remind you of all the other things you could be doing and bring out your doubts, but by taking action, you’ll shut down those other thoughts and start feeling empowered to change. So stop the paralysis by analysis. Stop looking for the perfect diet, the ultimate training programme, and studying complex theories before you’ve mastered the basics. So. Yeah. I get that, being Scottish, he likely isn't really all that familiar with the American system of racism and disenfranchisement and oppression - but considering that he specifically called out the Untouchable caste in India, but only as a "someone always has it worse than you, so stop making excuses" example... He should be. And yet he offered nothing of substance or value for anyone whose problems are real and OUTSIDE of their own mind. Gary John Bishop is one of the leading Personal Development experts in the industry with a global reputation that has impacted tens of thousands of people worldwide. His "urban philosophy" approach represents a new wave of personal empowerment and life mastery that has caused miraculous results for people in the quality and performance of their lives.
He calls it like it is while being influenced by ontology, phenomenology and the philosophy of some of the world's greatest thinkers. You be inspired, unburdened and grounded. Working with Gary creates the space to be an altered version of you. The greatness you once imagined becomes a reality, only its bigger, better and more incredibly freeing than you dreamed it could be. His work life changing.

He talks a lot about our self talk and how we can talk ourselves out of taking actions because we’ve decided whatever the goal is, we’re too stupid or the goal is too unrealistically hard. Positive self-talk can dramatically improve mood, boost confidence, and increase positivity. “The more you tell yourself how hard something is, the harder it will actually seem.” Even things like doing laundry or vacuuming can seem overwhelming.

Stop telling yourself you will do something this time. Look in the past and see your behaviour for this thing and how you handled it and use this to predict to see how you will handle it in the future. We are too reactive - it is time to be proactive. You are your actions, not your thoughts - take a day to do what you normally don't. Eat at that restaurant, buy those pants, go to that service station, get a cup of coffee, talk to the person near."

Ne stoje vam na putu drugi, nisu ni okolnosti ono što blokira vaš razvoj, nego vi sami i negativan samogovor koji neprestano vrtite po glavi. Ova knjiga nudi osvježavajuć, izravan pristup koji će vam pomoći da prevladate samonametnuta ograničenja.“ Gary John Bishop u ovom priručniku nudi alate i savjete potrebne da razbijete okove koji vas sputavaju, a drugačiji pristup je taj zbog kojeg je ova knjiga drugačija od ostalih ovoga žanra.

I expect nothing & accept everything

Determining what you are willing and not willing to do means you have finally taken control of your thoughts. So how can one do so? Well, as you derail from your well-established goals, you should stop and analyze what caused you misfortune in your undertakings. Most often than not, you’ll find that it is something that could’ve been done better by you. Learn from that.